Embracing Doubt: Are they my Twin Flame?

Trying to figure out if someone is your Twin Flame or not can be incredibly intense. It's an emotional and a spiritual journey all rolled into one. With this, naturally comes some doubt whether or not you're truly on the Twin Flame journey. 

Let's take a look at some of the ways we can work with, not against, that doubt. 

1. Accept Twin Flames for what they are

The very idea of Twin Flames may seem a little crazy. You aren't going to find your average Joe talking about them or how to navigate the journey if you are one. And, when you do find the people who believe in Twin Flames like you do, you'll find that they embrace and acknowledge how complex and challenging the relationship is itself.

The quicker you can accept that you're on an unconventional relationship journey, one that challenges the status quo and social norms of those around you- and you accept that this journey is intense, crazy, and full of twists and turns, the quicker you can honor it all for what it is. In this regard, knowing you have doubt is just part of the process, not a sign that something bigger is wrong. 

2. Prioritize healing 

Doubt often comes from fear of the unknown and our past wounds helping us to predict what's to come. Chances are if you're struggling with doubt, you know what it's like to trust yourself even when others may not agree and then for things to not work out. Or, perhaps you grew up in a household where you were taught you can't be trusted. Whatever the original source of the wound, get curious, get intimate, and allow yourself to heal from it so you don't keep doubting yourself in the future. 

3. Anchor your signs 

We all get signs and synchronicities that help us know that what we are dealing with is a Twin Flame relationships. Researching what these signs meant could be exactly what introduced you to the term Twin Flames in the first place. Make a list of all the signs and evidence you've collected, and keep it near by. When you have a doubtful moment, pull out your list, remind yourself of the evidence, and practice your self-trust muscle knowing that even if right now you're unsure, you have felt confident before, and you trust that version of yourself.

4. Take it to your Higher Self

There is nothing like our own inner guidance system. Anytime you are doubting something, you owe it to yourself to explore why, and to at least validated those doubts to see if they are worth paying attention to. If they're really your Twin Flame, they'll be able to survive this. Take your doubt to your inner fire, and see what your higher self has to say about it. You may find that their perspective is just what you needed. 

5. Work on trusting yourself in other areas

The more times you take a risk and trust in yourself, the more times you have to collective evidence on whether or not you can trust you. Think of some challenges that would stretch you, but also feel like something you can accomplish. Set a goal or two, and reach them. When you're done, celebrate and remind yourself that this is a practice in trusting you. Repeat the process as you heal your relationship with you. 

6. Don't compare your connection to others, let go of any expectations 

A super common question I get is if it's normal for twin flames to __________ (fill in anything here). It's normal for Twin Flames to challenge our idea of normal, so even if it wasn't that doesn't mean it's not a valid thing for your Twin Flame relationship. There's a lot of voices out there telling you what Twin Flames are or how they should look. If you're doubting yourself because you're not fitting what others say, remind yourself that the only person you have to measure up to is yourself. Their journey is theirs, yours is yours. 

7. Be present

In any moments of doubt, it helps to center yourself in the present moment. This helps to calm your nervous system and ground yourself so that when you consult your inner guidance system, you know it's coming from a secure place. Take a moment when you're feeling doubtful to observe your surroundings. Take things in with each of your senses. Be present to your thoughts, any guidance you're receiving, your emotions, whatever is coming up. And, be there for you. 

8. If the communication lines are open, use them 

While this may not work for everyone, sometimes what we need to clear up doubt is to just talk to our Twin Flame. This shouldn't be your first solution, and if it's replacing your trust in yourself-that's not going to work. Rather, look at this as asking more questions, collecting more evidence, and seeing where your Twin Flame stands. If this goes the opposite of how you want it, don't be discouraged. That is typically a sign this is something you need to solve internally first. Sometimes though, what we really need to heal is to trust that we are worthy of bringing our concerns up to our Twin Flame, and having those addressed.

9. Don't expect miracle solutions over night

One of the most common reasons why I see people go back on their belief that their Twin Flame is their Twin Flame is because their Twin Flame isn't doing what they want in the 3D yet. The growth isn't happening fast enough. The physical reality is going to be the last thing to change. It's important that you don't wait to see to believe, because it's believing that will help you to see. You may have to practice having faith here, but the more you do, the more you'll get concrete evidence to support your faith. 

10. Seek Support and Guidance

Consider seeking guidance from those who are here to help! I have a freebie (Are We Twin Flames?) you can check out that helps you get clear on your connection, or if you want some more hands on support, I also have a coaching session (Connection Clarity Coaching Call) you can look into that won't give you the answer, but support you in hearing and trusting the answer within. 

Overcoming this doubt is an important part of the Twin Flame journey. By embracing the journey for what it is and the depth of what it teaches you, you can use this doubt as an opportunity to take your self love and healing even deeper. See it as a challenge to find inner union, that can help contribute to the outer union you may want too.